Mama Bear

So, we survived Kindergarten and have been promoted to First grade…..Woot Woot! I am one proud mama. Towards the end of the school year, I was thinking about what will they do for the Summer, because me and the husband don’t have Summer break. The youngest is in daycare, but I wanted something different and fun for them both to do and I wanted them to be together. So, the school offered a Summer Enrichment Program. In the back of my mind, I knew I’d sign David up, but I was not sure about Christopher. I ended up signing them both up, when I found out they took 4 year olds as well.

So, I get there the first day to drop them off and we get the schedule for the next 10 weeks of what they will be doing daily.  Mind you, on the promotion flyer it mentioned field trips and other fun activities. I am reading through this schedule and I see that they will have Spanish class, Art, trips to the movies, reading…but WAIT…..field trips outside of the city (miles away from me…don’t judge me, I was NOT feeling this at all).

We are in the second week and I am enjoying the fact that they are getting to be adventurous and try new things.  Christopher misses his friends and was sad. So, this made me think I made the wrong decision. See, this is how the enemy will try to play tricks with your mind. I almost fell for it. *side-eye* I had to talk to myself and remind myself that wherever my children are God is with them. He will never leave them nor forsake them.

I am cool with being a mama bear while they are 6 and 4. I have to enjoy each and every moment of their lives. I know I also have to “let go” as well. So, to all of you mama bear types out there, it is ok, but just make sure there is a balance. It doesn’t mean that we are crazy.  It just means that we love our children and want the best for them ALWAYS!!

 

 

Wednesday Word

So, Today is the First Day of Summer, and I know a lot of you have already started your Summer activities. In the hustle and bustle of life, not just Summer, some of us knowingly and unknowingly have the tendency to want to “check-out.” Although, my family will not go on vacation until August, my mind is already there.  I just wanted to encourage all of you today, to not “check-out” and forget about God because it’s Summer break and you’re on vacation. What if God took a break and told you that he was going on vacation and to call him next week? I don’t even want to think about what that would look like. It is vital to continually “nourish” your relationship with God daily.  What does this look like?  Remember to read your Word daily, meditate on the Word and pray.

Have fun this Summer, but stay connected to the vinedresser!!

H.U.S.B.A.N.D

Give me an H-H…give me a U-U…give me an S-S…give me a B-B…give me an A-A…give me an N-N…give me a D-D…what’s that spell? HUSBAND!!!! YESSSSSSS!!!! O.K., so I was never a cheerleader, but I tried out and I didn’t make the cut. Talk about upset. Humph!! It was their loss. Yes, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. So, this is clearly not about me, but I am a cheerleader in my own right. I am my husband’s cheerleader.

Keisha, how can you be your husband’s cheerleader? I am glad you asked. *wink* Let me explain here. I believe that as wives, we have been anointed to be our spouses HELP-MEET! We are designed to help them meet/reach their God-given purpose. One way that we can do that is by being their “BIGGEST” cheerleader.

You should alwsys want to be his biggest fan. Cheer your husband on. Encourage him in the Lord. Affirm him. Pray for him. Listen to him. Let him know you appreciate the things that he does for the family.
When you do this, you’re filling up his love tank. Encouragement gives them a boost. When they know they have your support, it makes them want to work a little harder. Also, always be found speaking well of him in the presence of others. This let’s others know how much you love and care about him and what concerns him. He’s bound to hear about it and I’m sure it would encourage him in ways you can’t imagine.

What you say?

I was speaking to someone as I was entering the church.  I asked how they were doing? They said you know,  I’m wonderful because I’m a child of the King. They said, because  I have Him in me, I have everything that I need. I smiled.  They were right. We are His children,  but some would say, oh..that’s cliche and you’re just being churchy.

Moving forward to a conversation I heard before that, a scenario from Bible Study was being shared. It was in reference to how we say things and sometimes we don’t realize it. A lady was telling a story and she said when my husband first died. A member joked and said, How many times did he die? I was thinking I’m sure she didn’t find that funny at all. They continued to story and said the room laughed and she realized what she said. Maybe she should have said, when my first husband died. I’m sure she didn’t mean that he died twice.

This caused me to ask the question: Do I always watch what I say when I’m speaking? Do I really even think about it twice?

Although the scenario above is just an example and speaks to the way we say things, did it make you think? Will you watch how you say things and maybe think about why you are saying it?

Well, if I’m honest, I’ll just go ahead and say nope, sometimes it doesn’t even cross my mind. When it does,  depending on the content, its usually someone pointing it out to me or I’ll get a check on my spirit. This is usually not a good feeling, lol.

I’ve become more sensitive to this now. Whatever the nature of the conversation in your environment, make yourself aware of the how and the what? We all know the scripture that life and death is in the power of the tongue. Your words hold power. When you speak, you give life to those words.

The next time you speak, stop and think about first. Ask yourself is this beneficial to this particular situation; is this offensive; is this encouraging?

Always be aware of what you say. What you say and how you say it, can speak volumes about your character.

He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.

Proverbs 13:3 KJV

I see you…

Today is Fri-YAY and that’s a great thing right? I wouldn’t say that I need a do-over yet, but the devil is already busy! *insert side-eye* You ever have one of those mornings when EVERYTHING just pricks at you? Then you realize…wait a minute…I have to switch this around quickly.

Things are going to come at you from the left and the right, especially when you are trying to do things right. You have to just talk to yourself. I have reminded myself that, this is a great day.  Although the weapons may have formed, they shall NOT prosper. I have self-control. I have the love of God and the peace of God. I have the mind of Christ and I think on things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely and of good report. I will shall not be shaken today.

Todd Dulaney, one of my favorite gospel artist, has a song out called Put The Attention On Jesus. I have it on repeat right now. I think it is so fitting for when the enemy shows up and tries to distract you. The ultimate goal is to distract you and get you off course. You have to put the attention back on Jesus and not what the enemy would have you rehearse over and over in your mind.

Don’t be distracted today. It’s a trick. Tell the devil I see you and put the attention on Jesus, because that’s where it belongs.

 

Self-Care

What is self-care? In my opinion, it is looking after your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual state.  As a wife, mother of 2 boys and working professional, this can be a challenge, because I am always looking after the needs of someone else. This is not necessarily a bad thing, because I believe that I have been called to be wife and mother.  I love my husband and boys.  I also love my job.

It is crazy, but I have to remember to scale back and look after me. It may sound selfish to some, but if I am not ok, how can I tend to the needs of someone else?

There will always be the thought of…I don’t have enough time or I’ll do something for me later. No, the something for me later needs to come first.

I am not sure what this looks like for you, but for me, I may have to get up a little earlier to have a quiet moment to myself.  I actually do this all the time. I am an early riser, so early morning is great. When I get up early, it sets the tone for the day. If morning is not for you, make sure you take a lunch break or 10 minutes in the bathroom away from the noise.  The important thing is making sure you do “something” for you.

Start today with accessing your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual state. If you have started working out and quit, it is always ok to begin again. If you need to seek counseling, do it. Please know that it is healthy to seek counseling if needed. If you need more of the word (I don’t think you can ever have enough of this), then get in the word and read.  God is not impressed on how many chapters you can read in  a day, so don’t do that.  If you only take one scripture and meditate on it for an entire week, that is great. The thing is to retain what you have read, so that you can walk it out.

1 Corinthians 6:19 says, Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;

This verse speaks of our bodies being a temple of the Holy Spirit. We have to take care of our physical and spiritual bodies, so that God may be glorified.

Self-care is vital to life. May God be glorified in everything you say and do!

Wisdom

What is wisdom?  One of the definitions in the dictionary says, the soundness of an action or decision with regard to the application of experience, knowledge, and good judgment. The soundness of an action. The condition of your response is how I like to think of wisdom.

We face many different situations on a daily basis and I believe they all require us to use wisdom of some sort. It may be on your job, in your marriage, concerning your children and even in ministry. Lately,  I have found myself praying for the Lord to give me wisdom in everything that I do.  I think when you  have the wisdom of God, you’ve got it. I believe whole-heartedly when you have His wisdom, everything else falls into place.
Just today, I had a situation where I had to make a decision on something and I asked for advice.  Did I like the answer I received?  Nope. Was it probably the right answer? Yep. You see, when you ask God for something like wisdom or to show you how you may not have been wise, be open to how it may be revealed to you.

Some things you have to just take like a big girl and move forward being thankful that the Lord showed you something you couldn’t see. It’s even worse when he’s showed you more than once in a certain area and you finally get it.  It had me for a minute in my feelings, but the revelation that came with it is for my good and His glory. So, when God gives you something you’ve asked for what do you do with it?

So, be sober in how you choose to respond. Use wisdom.

Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end. Proverbs 19:20 KJV

Hold on.

Have you ever watched a bug land on your windshield and hold on for life? I don’t know why I paid so much attention to this, but I found it quite interesting. I think it was because I was driving where the speed limit was 55 miles per hour and I was certain it would blow away. Well, it didn’t budge.

So, I found out that most insects have tiny hairs that secrete an oily substance.  This substance causes the tips of the hairs to stick to the surface. The oily substance gives the traction and stickiness that helps them to hold on to smooth surfaces.

I was thinking about life and how we all go through different challenges. Sometimes, the issues of life can beat you down so bad that you want to just fall into pieces and give up. The bug on my windshield reminded me that just like they were able to hold on for dear life, that we have to hold on to God and His promises to us the same way.

We have to continually feast on the word of God.  When you feast on the word of God, you will become very familiar with the nature of God. When you know the nature of God, you will begin to have hope. Hope in the fact that God will see you through. He is the same yesterday, today and forever.  When you can’t see the hand of God moving in your situation, trust the heard of God.

Hold on to God and never let go!

What about your friends…..

I love my boys. They are the exact opposites. One has a sweet little personality and the other one is just as BOLD as they come. I have one in daycare and one that is about to complete his first year in Kindergarten. When the oldest turned 5 and it became a reality that he would be entering into public school with a few hundred other little personalities, it bothered me a little bit.

As a mother, I’d love to keep them in a bubble, because a mother always wants to protect her children from certain things. However, I do realize that they have to be out in the world and develop and become who God created them to be. The part that we as parents have in this, is that we have to train them up in the way that they should go and pray that when they are old, they will not depart from it. We are their examples. They will become what they behold.

Both my boys have met little friends and it has been interesting. I walk both boys in everyday and I’m that mother that probably stays too long. I’m an observer and I watch these little people. I recently went on a field trip with the class and I got to experience his friends in a different way. My oldest has one friend that just adores him. They were stuck together like “GLUE” the entire time.

At the end of the trip, I came away a little wiser. We can learn a lot from our children. Also, you can tell a lot about the parents from the children as well. What rang even louder was the fact that WE should love no matter what. It doesn’t matter what color we are, what race we are or even where we come from. They just carried on as two little friends.

As your children go through life, you never know who they will become friends with. Just hope and pray that your child will be that friend that sees no color, race or family dynamic. Let’s pray that our children will be the “light” in a dark world, that wants us to label one another.

Welcome to Keisha’s Khronicles

Welcome…welcome…welcome! I would say welcome back, but since this is your first time here, come on in. Keisha’s Khronicles is where I will share with you about my favorite things: Me and My rock – my heavenly Father; Me and Him – the husband (love of my life); Just me – that’s it…just me…Keisha; Me and my two – I’m a boy mom to 2 little boys and Me and The Guys – me and the boy heavy crew. Lord, I am definitely outnumbered over here,  but it’s all good. I love me some them. 🙂  So, I really hope that you find something that would keep you coming back. Until, next time…..

Keisha